I read from the Dhammapada, Verses 222 and 227:
One, who controls his anger when aroused, is like a clever driver who controls a fast going carriage; the others are like those who merely hold the reins.
This is a thing of old, Atula, not only of today; they blame him who remains silent, they blame him who talks much, they blame him who speaks in moderation; none in the world is left unblamed.
The teaching is crystal clear and echoed in the sacred texts of the Abrahamic religions: Let it go!
People will always find a flaw in you. They waste precious time and, when we do the same, we are, as they, living a dark spiritual blindness. Gaining control takes vigilance and discipline.
In the first months or even years, a spiritual discipline comes relatively easily and that’s because we’re skimming the surface. In realizing his own true nature, Jesus first left the company of others to travel into the desert where he was tempted for 40 days and 40 nights. He emerged the Christ. His teaching invites us to do the same thing, and the verses of the Dhammapada capture precisely the central principle.
There’s no way around it. We must pass through the veil of our rages and illusions, and face our daemons head on, empowered by the Truth of what is real in us.
Anger and tempestuous reaction to events are a learned reflex and the result of habitually triggered neural pathways conditioned by some harsh experience or fear of such experience. Thought moves faster than limbic chemistry.
Hard as it may be at times, we can head it off at the pass! What it requires is becoming exquisitely attuned to the early signs of the rising emotional tide and interrupting the reflex thought cycle with a potent counter-punch; perhaps a short phrase or image that connotes the very opposite experience.
In time, we can lay down new pathways. It’s been estimated to be doable in 21 days of consistent practice.
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